Are you pouring your heart and soul into making your relationship work and sense that you are not getting the same in return?We have all played the tedious game whereby we swoon and fall for the perfect man, bend over backwards to get him to notice you, and realize too little too late that he is completely unavailable emotionally.Experts say that many emotionally unavailable people want a serious relationship but their emotional baggage prevents them from making an intimate connection.Some are untrusting; they fear rejection or they have a fear of being controlled.
I thought I was a pro at all of the tell tale signs. He came on very strong in the beginning, telling me he deleted his dating app after our first date, that he turned down other dates because he didn’t want to waste time with other girls, and showed me in more ways than one that I was his priority. Things were at the height of our relationship, and I use this word loosely because it really wasn’t a relationship.
He has convinced himself that he is being honest with me. I came to realize he will find another awesome girl and do the same thing to her to fill his void of being alone Lather. Repeat I sent myself in to a six-week black hole, and I will never get those six weeks back.
I always thought of myself as someone who had high self-esteem, but I began questioning why I was upset over someone who shut me out so intensely and quickly.
We hadn’t even made it official and he was talking about breaking up. When I saw him on a dating site six weeks after the split (after him telling me earlier that he didn’t want to see other people; he just wasn’t ready for a relationship), I panicked.
He told me he didn’t want to lose me, nor did he want his baggage to ruin what we had. This lasted for all of about twenty-four hours when he ended it. I confronted him about it and he took no accountability for ending things the way he did.